Does Family Constellation always yield results, and how can one determine its effectiveness?

Through my personal experience, studies, and observations of the different family system I worked with, I would like to say yes family constellations can yield to effective results.

However, it is important to acknowledge that we often become attached to specific outcomes and may overlook other potential insights and possibilities that may arise during the process

Bert Hellinger frequently emphasizes that ‘Family Constellation is about life and death’, and it took me some time to fully comprehend the meaning behind this statement. Often, we fail to grasp the essence of being open to life. Being open to life does not imply a life without problems or challenges. Life encompasses both positive and negative aspects, joy and sorrow, and more. Embracing life means accepting and integrating both the good and the bad simultaneously. Taking life with whatever, it may bring, and accepting our fate with its difficulties, is considered open to life, too.

Whatever holds us back from life as Bert Hellinger used to consider, is being entangled with the dead.

On the other hand, we often become fixated on a single solution, mistakenly believing it to be the only possible outcome. In doing so, we overlook the other possibilities that unfold before us. Family Constellation encourages us to widen our perspective and consider the various potential resolutions that exist beyond our limited expectations.

There was a client who had been deeply invested in exploring the topic of relationships. She like any single woman searching for the right partner.

During one of her own constellations, something truly remarkable took place. a profound shift occurred within her, on a soul level. That was observed and sensed by most of the attendees and of course herself as well.

The effects of this transformation soon became apparent in her day-to-day life. Even if she wasn’t aware that it is taking effect. She found herself becoming more receptive to opportunities that came her way, particularly in her professional work life. With newfound confidence and aliveness, she started serving life as it unfolds in front her. Accepting the challenges brought through life from a totally different stance. In family constellation language, She now indeed is connected to life more than before.

That’s a typical example of the unnoticed effect of family constellation.

Another example where family constellation played a significant role in helping a couple, who were on the verge of divorce, to reestablish their connection. Through family constellation, they were able to acknowledge the pain they had carried throughout their years of marriage due to a past abortion, ultimately leading to a renewed sense of closeness in their relationship.

The effectiveness of Family Constellation, it can vary from person to person. Some individuals may experience immediate shifts and profound insights during or shortly after a session, while others may require more time to integrate and observe the effects.

It's important to note that the process is highly individual, and the long-term effects can continue to unfold and deepen over time.